SamHenry on Holidays Alone

Posted on November 24, 2010

SamHenry has,  for a variety of reasons, been alone on several holidays.  It can actually be quite beautiful for its peace and  reflection that builds inner strength and peace; for happy memories of holidays past, peopled with those you love; and for the realization that the state of being alone is the basic human condition.

My maternal grandmother lost both parents when she was a little girl.  She knew from a young age the feeling of being alone.  And she made friends with it.  She taught first my mother and then SamHenry about how to handle being alone when she would remind us:

Whenever you feel alone, remember that we come into this world alone and ultimately that is the way we leave it.

It doesn’t matter how married you are or how many children you have, when you wake up in the middle of the night and everyone else is asleep, you feel very alone surrounded with your loved ones.  At these times, remember the basic human condition.

When you have made friends with yourself; when you can sit happily with a book and read in your own quiet corner then you have life licked.  You come to see that you have the strength and the insight to handle being alone and that it can have its own rewards.  It can bring balance to a busy life. It is nothing to run from.

You can also eat what you want; when you want.  You can eat out or stay in (eating alone in a restaurant is not so bad – especially when you bring something to read).  You can watch what you want to on TV.  The day is yours.  Enjoy it!  And remember you are not the only person alone for a holiday.  There are millions around the globe having the same experience.  After all, it is part of the human condition.

Musical note:  A lot of people have made a lot of money on the theme of “alone.”  Think of all the many songs about being alone:

The Bee Gees 1997 sing “Alone.”

Frank Sinatra and Sammy Davis Jr. jazz up the oldie “Me and My Shadow.”

Paul McCartney sings the Beatles classic “Eleanor Rigby” – alone.

Judy Garland sings an old chestnut “By Myself” also called  ” I’ll Go My Way By Myself.”

Frank Sinatra and Sammy Davis Jr. jazz up the oldie “Me and My shadow.”

Elton John is sitting alone on the roof kicking down the moss and reflecting…”Your Song.”


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